The Friendship Practice
Friends in the Making
Friendship is not something that falls into your lap. It is something you practice. Time together creates the opportunity, but it's the real conversations inside that time, not the hours alone, that turn someone into a friend. This tool tracks several friends in the making at once: the time you spend, and how real it actually felt.
Your situation
Where are you right now?
Your situation shapes what follow-up looks like. Select the one that fits best. It adjusts the suggested follow-up messages below.
Log shared time
Who did you spend time with?
Enter a first name and how many hours you spent together. Each log adds to their total. Half-hours count: enter 0.5 for 30 minutes. And track more than one person: friendship in the making grows from several warm connections, not from betting everything on one.
Your connections
Where each friendship stands
Each bar tracks real conversations, the ones where you actually caught up on each other's lives, not just time spent in the same room. Hours are still logged underneath, but they're not what moves the bar. The bolded line under each name is the real signal: keep showing up, and let the honest ones deepen.
And expect some of these to stay put. Sometimes the fit isn't there, or the effort stays one-sided. That's not a failure, it's information. Letting one go makes room for the ones that feel easy.
Backup
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Want to go further?
Knowing the hours is not the hard part.
If you are logging time but the connection is not deepening, the obstacle is rarely how much time you are spending. It is what happens during that time, and what you do in the two days after. That is what the coaching is for.
Research estimates like 50, 90, and 200 hours are useful reference points, not universal thresholds to hit. See the science of friendship for what that research does and doesn't support.