5-question quiz

What's your friendship challenge?

Five questions, two minutes. Find out where your friendship life most needs attention, and what to do next.

Question 1 of 5

When you think about your friendship life right now, what feels most true?

I'd like to meet new people but I'm not sure how to start. I have people I like, but we drift. I mean to reach out and then don't. I put in a lot of effort but it doesn't always feel mutual. I'm in a new place and starting from scratch.

Select one to continue.

Question 2 of 5

What usually happens after a good conversation with someone new?

I hope we run into each other again. I think about following up but often don't get around to it. I follow up right away, but then feel like I'm the one doing all the work. I enjoy it, but worry I won't see them again in this new city.

Question 3 of 5

What does your current social life feel like most days?

A bit thin. Not many people to call. There are people I like, but things fade when I'm not pushing them. I have people, but the energy isn't always reciprocal. Very new. I'm just getting started somewhere.

Question 4 of 5

What feels most like the friction in your friendship life right now?

I don't know where to meet people who would actually fit. I initiate, then let it drop. Things never quite solidify. I show up, I remember, I check in, but I'm not sure others do the same. Everything feels unfamiliar: the city, the routines, the people.

Question 5 of 5

If you could change one thing about your friendship life right now, it would be...

Having more promising people in my orbit. Actually following through on the connections I already have. Feeling less like the one who always makes the effort. Having at least one real local friend to count on.

Please answer all five questions before continuing.

Your challenge

The Waiting Game

You have good instincts. You can feel when a connection is promising. But then you wait, hoping things will continue on their own. They rarely do. The gap between a good encounter and a real friendship is almost always one follow-up. You don't need more opportunities. You need to take the ones you already have.

Read: How to make friends as an adult → Read: How to follow up after meeting someone →

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Your challenge

The Follow-through Gap

You're good at starting. You like people, you mean to stay in touch, and the warmth is real. But somewhere between intention and action, things slip. Life gets busy, the moment passes, and the friendship fades a little more each time. The connections you want are already there. What's missing is the small act of follow-through that keeps them alive.

Read: How to keep friends as an adult → Read: Why do friendships fade →

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Your challenge

The One-Sided Effort

You show up. You remember. You check in. But the friendship only seems to move when you push it, and that gets exhausting. This isn't a sign that you're bad at friendship. It may say more about who you've been investing in, or about how visible your own needs are. Either way, there's a clearer way through it.

Read: One-sided friendship → Read: How to be a better friend →

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Your challenge

Starting Over

You're in a new place, or it feels like one. The social life you want doesn't exist yet. Not because something is wrong with you, but because you haven't had time to build the repetition that turns a city into home. It's a specific kind of lonely. And it's very common. There are concrete ways to start.

Read: How to meet people in a new city → Read: How to make friends after 30 →

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About this quiz

This quiz was designed by Carole Stromboni, founder of The Friendship Practice. It's a starting point, not a diagnosis. If you recognize yourself in more than one profile, that's normal. Start with the one that feels most true right now.